Wednesday, April 14, 2010

What do you think?

Time Off - what does that mean to you?

We all need time off - and as mothers that does not come easily. I often try to explain to Max that I am always on duty. Even when we are both home, I tend to be the one more compelled to fix problems and deal with whatever comes along. That is not to say he isn't helpful - he does more than his fare share. However, even if he says he has something handled, I still find myself trying to take care of it. I have to be away from the home to not 'worry' about it; but even then I am thinking about it, planning, and taking care of it in my head.

Before KayLynn, time off meant time for Max and I to hang out together. We had time to ourselves all the time! My amazing husband had to learn something after K was born. Sometimes, time off means OFF. Off from him, off from her and off from the house. Actually time off in the house to clean it without anyone hanging on me would be nice too!! So I struggled for a while on how to tell my loving adoring husband (who planned dates whenever I said I wanted time off) that I wanted him to leave me alone as well.

Thankfully I have an amazing husband and now he almost always sees the need before I do. He will tell me to leave and let him and KayLynn spend the evening together. Or, he will make sure I have bathsalts and take care of K while I take a nice hot bath (I LOVE baths. LOVE LOVE LOVE). And, actually, I have found that when I get to go workout - without K - it is soo relaxing in my brain.

What do you do for your TIME OFF??


sarah said...

time off-what is that??
when I get a break typically I want to go grocery shopping, work out or sew-things that I do with the boys already but are sooo much easier by my self.
I love MOPS because I know that once a week I will finish a conversation, a cup of coffee while it is still hot and do something creative with out "help"
energizes me for the rest of the week:)

Leanne said...

I would have to agree with Sarah,that doing anything without the boys is a refreshing break, even if it just means running errands. Ever since Philip was born I have done my grocery shopping, and other running around, on saturday mornings-usually kid free. I have to admit, I look forward to this time out, by myself. On a very rare occasion, I will treat myself to a coffee on my way out of the grocery store.

jbhinman said...

Break means different things to me. It could mean time with or without Josh. It could also mean napping with Jonah. Or time by myself. I would rather get all my stuff done with the boys so a break can really be a break. This is something I have had a lot of lately. I am in a book club that meets often and I just recently joined another one that will meet once a month!!! I have very much enjoyed this time and am very excited to add another member to the club!

Kjerste said...

Wow! A book club sounds like so much fun! For now, I try to sneak in a little nap every day while the kids are down. It takes a bit of work to make sure that happens, but it means a happier Mama, and therefore, a happier family.

Alicia said...

Erika and I were just talking about this the other day. We both agreed that non-kid time is sooo important to a woman's sanity. For me, my little time away indulgence is to go to Barnes and Noble, get a coffee (and maybe a tempting treat), and read as many celeb gossip magazines as possible in a 1-2 hr. time span. I come home so refreshed and ready to take on whatever home life throws at me.

Valerie said...

luckily my baby is new enough that i haven't really needed any breaks from her yet. her dad's a different story though :)