Wednesday, October 13, 2010

What do you think?

So many forms of relaxation...and we need them all

I am a firm believer in the saying 'If Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy'.  I have observed both in my own life and in other's that when I am not healthy (emotionally/physically/spiritually) then I cannot take care of the emotional, physical and spiritual health of my family.

I believe that the following are the kinds of relaxation/rejuvenation/fun that  we should all strive for to be truly healthy, so that we can take care of our families...  This is based on what I think, what I have observed, and what I know about myself.  Let me know what you think.

1.  Good old fashioned play time with the kids with no demands and when you're not in a hurry.  I usually go to a park or on a walk with K.  But mostly just make sure that there is lots of laughter.

2.  Time out with the husband - on a date.  Not just out to dinner, but truly talking and exploring one another like we used to when we had time!!  :)

3.  Time with girlfriends to reflect, share stories, get advice and moral support and just gab.  (likewise my husband needs time with other men - to be a man!)

4.  Time completely OFF DUTY from home, husband and children...  I believe this is what we are lacking. 

As my friend said - I feel bad paying someone to watch my children while I go out for no reason...  But there is a reason, a GREAT REASON.  If you are able to refresh your batteries - how much better of a mother are you going to be??  I know that in my case, that even when I just get two hours off to sit at Borders and read a book (just one or two times a month), I am refreshed.  I am ready to run home to my daughter and play with her.  Whereas when I left I was running to the door.

I think that sometimes as mothers we sell ourselves short.  I think that we all need true 'time off' ever so often.  Feel free to argue with me, but I firmly believe that if you (the mom) are not healthy then you are not able to take care of your kids and family as you should.  Now, for the dads and skeptics out there, let me clarify.  I am not saying that we should get a free pass to get our nails done every Friday or that we deserve massages every couple days/weeks.  What I am saying is that everyone needs a few hours  outside of the home alone (not with duties, friends, husband or kids).  So, What do you think??


sarah said...

have you seen "date night"-that scene where she says-I fantasize about being in a hotel by myself. I feel that I get my "away" time in being creative and doing crafts, thankfully my hubby realizes that I need time to create and finish something from start to finish:)

sharika roland said...

That is why God created the Korean Health Spa. alone time / I love going there alone .

sharika roland said...

anytime I can do it, Just call and I will give you a few hours off. Just bring her over. You can just go window shopping. You are right time off alone is important