OK, how do handle very kind offers that are out of the question? Let me explain.
Yesterday my neighbor's daughter (Samantha) came over our fence (lifted by her father to Max) to play with KayLynn. That was fine with me. However when she tried to share her drink with KayLynn, I got a little protective (after all what do I really know about these people?). I got KayLynn her own drink - no problem. When Samantha went back over the fence her mother invited KayLynn over to play sometime. My reaction? "No stinkin' way" I don't mind Samantha coming over, but I don't know those people. i am not sending my daughter over there without me. They seem like nice enough people, but those who knew Ted Bundy thought he was a nice enough guy too! Am I crazy?
The second thing that happened was a few days ago. A lady overheard me talking to Max about my being overwhelmed with trying to find babysitters for KayLynn. When Max went to the bathroom, she apologised for overhearing us, but she thought she could help. She was an army wife and seemed fairly nice, and she babysits in her home. She offered to give me references and her number if I was interested. I explained to her that, though I was very thankful for her offer, I am crazy protective when it comes to who babysits my daughter, and though I am sure she is a very nice woman - I mostly depend on family and close friends.
Am I crazy? how do you handle offers that were meant to be kind - but totally unacceptable?